Self-Esteem: Valuing Yourself by Aruna


Everything you attract into your life is a reflection of what you feel you deserve, what you feel you are worth and how highly you value yourself in all areas of your life. Because developing self-esteem is a process and not a destination, you can raise your self-esteem by understanding yourself and increasing your self worth. Self-worth is the conviction that you are worthy and valuable. Self-worth is the way you talk to yourself about yourself, how you feel about yourself, and the extent to which you think and feel you can cope with the situation in front of you. If you treat yourself well, other people will too. If you give across needy messages, people could take advantage – they may not respect you. Self-worth gives birth to self-esteem, and ultimately self-confidence. Self-confidence is an attitude. Self-confident people trust their own abilities, and have a general sense of control in their lives. Even when some of their expectations are not met, they continue to be positive and accept themselves. They nurture themselves. They manage their thoughts, not allowing weak or negative thoughts to creep in and sap their confidence. People with little self-worth depend excessively on the approval of others in order to feel good about themselves. They tend to avoid taking risks because they fear failure. They generally do not expect to be successful. They often put themselves down and tend to discount or ignore compliments paid to them. By contrast, self-confident people are willing to risk the disapproval of others because they generally trust their own abilities. They don’t feel they have to conform in order to be accepted. Feelings of self-worth, self-respect and self-esteem are quite distinct from ego. It is the knowledge and awareness of our own intrinsic uniqueness, beauty and value of the soul, not just the skills and abilities we have or our possessions, or the reputation we hold in the eyes of others. Self-respect is not boasting or bragging; instead, it is an honest assessment of our successes and the internal strengths that bring us victory. Self-esteem, or a lack of it, permeates our work and our personal lives – it leaves a mark on everything we do. Cultivating self-esteem and self-worth means you deserve the best at every moment. However, over eating, drinking excessively, smoking, and generally not being in control of yourself, or allowing others to be disrespectful towards you, are all signs of disrespecting the self! It is recognizing that I deserve the best from life just because I exist and not because of what I am, or because of what I do!